Help for Friends and Family
The reach of domestic violence extends beyond the person experiencing it.
Domestic violence impacts family members, friends, co-workers, other witnesses, and the community.
How to have the conversation with someone you suspect is being abused:
- Talk to the individual in private where the suspected abuser won’t overhear.
- Mention your concerns and the things you’ve noticed that caused these concerns.
- Don’t push the issue, but let them know that you are there whenever they feel ready to talk.
- Offer to keep their confidence, if you feel comfortable doing so, however, be aware of the obligation to report it if child abuse is involved.
- Be patient. Remember, abusers control and manipulate their victims often isolating them from their support network and reducing their self worth leaving them depressed, scared, ashamed, and confused; don’t demand they leave immediately they may not be capable of doing this.
- Ask questions, listen, offer help, and express concern. Avoid blaming, pressuring, giving advice, and placing conditions on your support.
- Tell them that it’s NOT their fault and they’re not alone.
If you hear or witness an assault:
- Call 911
- Write down information immediately, including license plate numbers and the location of the assault.
- Keep yourself safe and call the police. Do not assume someone else has called.
Other ways to help:
- Provide contact information for local resources. Let them use your phone to make the call (801-444-9161).
- Suggest developing a safety plan.
- Offer to let them keep emergency supplies at your house.
- Help them develop a safety plan for children.
- Offer any help you feel comfortable with such as a place to store belongings, pet sitting or re-housing, use of a vehicle, etc.
If you know someone you believe is being abused and don’t know where to turn to help, you can turn to Safe Harbor.
Our crisis line is open 24 hours a day, seven days a week, to answer your questions and help strategize with you for how you can offer support.